Forgive and Forget…?

[DaClique]

When you forgive the trespasses of others; do you still allow them another chance to trespass against you, and if not; is it truly forgiveness knowing that you have not forgotten?

[mick1973]

That's one of my biggest flaws, it's easy fo me to forgive but near impossible for me to forget. I've lost many relationships because of this.

[NeEKssS]

ive learned that with me..
if u want me to forgive and forget..
Then u need to be prepared for me to hate u..
jus for a lil while..cuz for me to truly forgive i have to go thru the motions.
i had an ex..n i love him dearly..n he's the same...n we broke up...tried to forgive n forget..but stuff jus kept comin back up..
Now...3 yrs later i cud honestly say i harbor no feelins..n i think its the same for him..
and as we sit n talk..its like..the past was the past..
so yeah..wen u truly forgive someone.its allowin them to mess up again..
now its not sayin u not gon get mad...but they shud b given that chance

[ainsley]

Originally Posted by mick1973

That's one of my biggest flaws, it's easy fo me to forgive but near impossible for me to forget. I've lost many relationships because of this.

4 tru i get a good memory

[Bunnilious]

My ex hurted me deeply and I hated him for quite sometime. I prayed that God would help me to move on and take away the pain I felt. I realised over time that for me to move on and stop feeling the that way that I did that I needed to forgive him and stop hating him. Deep down I love who was but dredfully hated what he did. But time goes on and the heart heals. Forgiving is a way to move on from the past and into the future but remembering in the back of your mind where you been and where your going.

[kiastar]

wow i must say it is definitely easier to forgive than forget. I too have been hurt by a man and i still hate him for what he did, guess i should forgive and forget -- lol

[PricelessToni]

Originally Posted by mick1973

That's one of my biggest flaws, it's easy fo me to forgive but near impossible for me to forget. I've lost many relationships because of this.

ditto.
And if i say I forgive them but don't talk to them anymore, is that considered forgiving?

I recently forgave ,I had to because I was rotting away despising them ,yeah we don't talk and live in the same house lol -sisters i tell you . Iwondered the same thing Toni , then I catergorized it as letting go .

[CrunkPrincess]

i would TRY to forgive but the incident would stillb playing in my mind. I know one thing for sure though, they wouldn't be able to trespass against me no more

[mick1973]

Originally Posted by PricelessToni

ditto.
And if i say I forgive them but don't talk to them anymore, is that considered forgiving?

Actually that's called "forgetting", it's just that you don't forget the problem ....you just forget the person!

Hence the phrase: "Forget you!!"

[Jahzara]

This topic gave me such food for thought because I have used the phrase 'I don't forgive' for quite some time which is kinda not right. I say "kinda" not right because most would probably say you have to forgive if you want others to forgive you and I guess that can be true. However when a person offends me to the point that I know I can and most likely will never view and deal with them the same I simply cut them off. And I am quite fine with the thought that should I offend someone and they do the same to me, I'm totally acceptive of the idea 'what goes around comes around' and I accept mine like a womanI refuse to waste my time and theirs pretending that everything is cool when I know I don't intend to deal with them in the real and honest way I did before. My way of dealing with forgiveness is to not deal with the person anymore for them to offend me again..in big matters that is, not simple petty things that can be handled otherwise

[DaClique]

I am no saint, by any stretch of the word, but I thought the initial intent of forgiveness was to allow that individual who had wronged you a change to make amends, and that; forgetting their trespasses was a key indicator that you are sincere in your forgiveness toward them…but I could be wrong.

[juice]

To tell da truth its hard for me to forgive but when i do everything is be cool..................i dont forget but i kinda start over with the person

[Lady_Assasian]

Originally Posted by DaClique

When you forgive the trespasses of others; do you still allow them another chance to trespass against you, and if not; is it truly forgiveness knowing that you have not forgotten?

No u do not let them trespass u....U may forgive a person but u would never4 get what that person did to u an it would b rather stupid for them to get the chance to do it again...so to me not forgetttin doesnt mean u never forgave dem.