Selectively shallow?

[PricelessToni]

Is it wrong to not date someone because they don't meet your standards?
Is that considered being shallow?

What if I only like tall guys? is it wrong to not date someone b/c they're under 6'? Or what if u only date depending on skin tone? wealth? cleanliness? a certain weight? biting nails or not? whether they have kids or not? whether they own a car? or have a job? or if they can financially support you (works both ways)?

I threw in cleanliness b/c we think that somethings are standard, and excusable, but that's also a filter for discrimination; believe it or not.

So is that shallow or selective?

[mick1973]

I don't think I'll call it wrong, but I do think that if you're mainly attracted to a person by something that's so easily changeable then you're setting youself up for a fall.

What if that person gains or loses weight, the rich may become poor, some people have better hygiene standards initially but may "fall off" after time. What I'm trying to say is that these superficial things can change quickly.

I have my superficial standards but thats just for initial attraction, if whats lying underneath all that is'nt up to standard then it makes all that above less attractive.

[DaClique]

It's a free world...you can be as shallow as you want, it's all goog.

[juice]

Put it like this ugly girls can be my friends but that's about it....................its jus your preferences nuthin to do with being shallow

[Licia_Ginger]

for me its selectively picky

[ainsley]

Originally Posted by PricelessToni

Is it wrong to not date someone because they don't meet your standards?
Is that considered being shallow?

What if I only like tall guys? is it wrong to not date someone b/c they're under 6'? Or what if u only date depending on skin tone? wealth? cleanliness? a certain weight? biting nails or not? whether they have kids or not? whether they own a car? or have a job? or if they can financially support you (works both ways)?

I threw in cleanliness b/c we think that somethings are standard, and excusable, but that's also a filter for discrimination; believe it or not.

So is that shallow or selective?

well its up to the person , u cnt jus diss some one cus off size , height wealth etc , cus at the same time u might be blowing off a really nice person 4 a fool

[PricelessToni]

Originally Posted by mick1973

I don't think I'll call it wrong, but I do think that if you're mainly attracted to a person by something that's so easily changeable then you're setting youself up for a fall.

What if that person gains or loses weight, the rich may become poor, some people have better hygiene standards initially but may "fall off" after time. What I'm trying to say is that these superficial things can change quickly.

I have my superficial standards but thats just for initial attraction, if whats lying underneath all that is'nt up to standard then it makes all that above less attractive.

that's a really good point.

[PricelessToni]

Originally Posted by juice

Put it like this ugly girls can be my friends but that's about it....................its jus your preferences nuthin to do with being shallow

that's true too. I was just verifying if having a preference would be considered wrong.
but like u say, we cld be friends, but if they don't qualify for your relationship standards, then i guess technically that's not being shallow.

lol.... it's like white people saying, "i'm not racist... i have a black friend. ", even tho, they may refuse to date, or be closely involved with a black person. (not necessarily b/n black and white ppl.)

That's an interesting loophole. lol.

preferences isn't wrong its a personal choice - what i think is how the media and society tries to enforce one true definition of beauty when there definitely not just one . my personal opinion.

[CrunkPrincess]

Originally Posted by sweetkisses

preferences isn't wrong its a personal choice - what i think is how the media and society tries to enforce one true definition of beauty when there definitely not just one . my personal opinion.

co-sign

[Lady_chippie]

Originally Posted by PricelessToni

Is it wrong to not date someone because they don't meet your standards?
Is that considered being shallow?

What if I only like tall guys? is it wrong to not date someone b/c they're under 6'? Or what if u only date depending on skin tone? wealth? cleanliness? a certain weight? biting nails or not? whether they have kids or not? whether they own a car? or have a job? or if they can financially support you (works both ways)?

I threw in cleanliness b/c we think that somethings are standard, and excusable, but that's also a filter for discrimination; believe it or not.

So is that shallow or selective?

If you have a preference no need to knock yaself.

But if love comes ya way in the form of a shorty dont let him pass you by (just generally speaking)

[Gemini_Princess]

Originally Posted by PricelessToni

Is it wrong to not date someone because they don't meet your standards?
Is that considered being shallow?

What if I only like tall guys? is it wrong to not date someone b/c they're under 6'? Or what if u only date depending on skin tone? wealth? cleanliness? a certain weight? biting nails or not? whether they have kids or not? whether they own a car? or have a job? or if they can financially support you (works both ways)?

I threw in cleanliness b/c we think that somethings are standard, and excusable, but that's also a filter for discrimination; believe it or not.

So is that shallow or selective?

in same cases it may be shallow n other cases it's selective. normally, no body wants to be wit someone who cant depend on dem selves, we all wan financially secure relationships but it's another thing wen u jus wan a rich guy/girl to ride like an *****...now, not dating someone becuz of height n skin tome is shallow, atleast to me, becuz not all tall n pretty skin tone ppl ga have wat ur lookin fa in a relationship

[PricelessToni]

Originally Posted by Lady_chippie

If you have a preference no need to knock yaself.

But if love comes ya way in the form of a shorty dont let him pass you by (just generally speaking)

So if love comes in a shorty, and I wldn't pursue it any further because he's short.?? then i guess that's what makes it shallow right?

[DaClique]

Originally Posted by PricelessToni

So if love comes in a shorty, and I wldn't pursue it any further because he's short.?? then i guess that's what makes it shallow right?

Speaking Gump-ish; shallow is as shallow does.

[Licia_Ginger]

Originally Posted by PricelessToni

So if love comes in a shorty, and I wldn't pursue it any further because he's short.?? then i guess that's what makes it shallow right?

well if dats da case dem in shallow, i cant look down at my guy and he has to tip toe to kiss me mmmm i dont like so i dun 5'4 i dont need no shorty