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25 THINGS A SISTA SHOULD NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR 1. Never apologize for pursuing what makes you happy. Even if you need to quit your job, transfer schools, or move across country, always do what you really want. 2. Never apologize for using proper English. Keeping it real doesn't mean speaking Ebonics. 3. Never apologize for giving your best in a relationship that just didn't work out. 4. Never apologize for being successful. Only haters want to keep you at their level. 5. Never apologize for crying. Wear waterproof mascara and express yourself. 6. Never apologize for ten pounds you need to lose. People who truly care about you will accept you as you are. 7. Never apologize for being frugal. Just because you save your money instead of blowing it on the latest fashion emergency doesn't mean you're cheap. 8. Don't apologize for being a single Mom. Babies are a blessing. 9. Never apologize for treating yourself to something special. Sometimes you have to show yourself some appreciation. 10. Never apologize for leaving an abusive relationship. Your safety should always be a priority. 11. Never apologize for keeping the ring even if you did not get married. 12. Never apologize for setting high standards in a relationship. You know what you can tolerate and what simply gets on your nerves. 13. Never apologize for saying NO. 14. Never apologize for asking for what you want in bed. If you don't, then who will? 15. Never apologize for wearing a weave or braids. You bought it so it's yours. 16. Never apologize to your new friends about old friends. There's a reason she's been your girl from day one. 17. Never apologize for ordering dessert or more than one dessert. 18. Never apologize for dating outside your race. Just because you found Mr. Right across the color line doesn't mean you don't love your brothas. 19. Never apologize for demanding respect. You are to always be treated as a queen. 20. Never apologize for not knowing how to cook. Even if you can't burn like Grandma you know how to order good take out. (Right Girl!) 21. Never apologize for your taste in clothes. It's your style. 22. Never apologize for changing your mind, it is your prerogative. 23. Never apologize for making a decision from your heart, even if others don't agree. You have to live with the consequences not them. 24. Never apologize for making more money than your man, you work hard and you deserve to get paid. 25. Never ever apologize for being you! 
If A Man Wants U If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If a man only wants sex , you will know the signs by the things that he says to you and the excuses that he always make not to be with you when the sex is all over If he has a wife, a baby momma or the other woman and she is not working it the way he likes it then dont be his suger baby because that is the only reason why he is with you he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." and if he wants the two of you to be friends along with the sex, heck no again the sex must be good because he dont want to lose it but you will not be his suger momma. and a friend wouldn't mistreat a friend or lead a friend on that whatthe two of you have is geniune .(Enough said) Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is and dont be surprise if there are not a long line of other women who was treated the same way. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better and dont feel bad about how the relationship ended and hate yourself for not finding out earlier .things are right before our eyes and most women are so blinded by love that they cant see what is happening to them . that they are being led on. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women who dont take you any place in public and who just want to spend time with you in bed doing the nasty and after it is finish he gives you this silly excuse and leaves. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up and let him know how you really feel. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are and that you cant do without him ... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues and take all the time you need before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun ,a dinner or a movie at times and even a drive out or a walk in the park...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.Right atleast you will have some very fond memories when it's all over. Make him miss you sometimes.never go running to him at all times let him come looking for you and ..when you go running to him at all times it always makes a man to think that you are always available to him and he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house and never get too close with the family because when the relationship comes to an end it gets real nasty and you will be out numbered.Remember family sticks together. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman get prepared and the men who can take it They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
The Next Bus ============ You know, love is just like someone waiting for a bus. When the bus comes, you look at it and you say to yourself "eeee...so full...cannot sit down, I'll wait for the next one." So you let that bus go and wait for the second bus. Then the second bus comes, you look at it and you say, "eeee...this bus is so old...so shabby!" So you let that bus go and again, decide to wait for the next bus. After a while another bus comes, it's not crowded, not old but you say, "eeee... not air-conditioned ...better wait for the next one." So again you let the bus go and decide to wait for the next bus. Then the sky starts to get dark as it is getting late. You panic and jump immediately inside the next bus. It is not until much later that you found out that you had boarded the wrong bus! So you wasted your time and money waiting for what you wanted! Even if an air-conditioned bus comes, you can't ensure that the air-conditioned bus won't break down or whether or not the airconditioner will be too cold for you. So people... wanting to get what you want is not wrong. But it wouldn't hurt to give other people a chance, right? If you find that the "bus" doesn't suit you, just press the red button and get off the bus (as simple as that). Hey who said life is fair??? The best thing to do is be observant and open while you scrutinize the bus. If it doesn't suit you, get off. But you must always have an extra something which you could use for the next bus that comes. But wait... I'm sure you've had this experience before. You saw a bus coming (the bus you want, of course), you flagged it but the driver acted as if he did not see you and zoomed past you! It just wasn't meant for you! The bottom line is, being loved is like waiting for a bus you want. Getting on the bus and appreciating the bus by giving it a chance depends totally on you. If you haven't made a choice, WALK! Walking is like being out of love. The good side of it is you can still choose any bus you want... the rest who couldn't afford another ride would just have to be content with the bus they rode on. One more thing.... sometimes it's better to choose a bus you are already familiar with rather than gamble with a bus that is unfamiliar to you. But then again, life wouldn't be complete without the risks involved. But there's one bus that I forgot to tell you about - the bus that you don't have to wait for. It will just stop on its own and will ask you to come inside and take a free ride for the rest of your life. You Never Lose By Loving You Always Lose By Holding back 
FOR US LADIES - 5/1/07 If A Man Wants U If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If a man only wants sex , you will know the signs by the things that he says to you and the excuses that he always make not to be with you when the sex is all over If he has a wife, a baby momma or the other woman and she is not working it the way he likes it then dont be his suger baby because that is the only reason why he is with you he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." and if he wants the two of you to be friends along with the sex, heck no again the sex must be good because he dont want to lose it but you will not be his suger momma. and a friend wouldn't mistreat a friend or lead a friend on that whatthe two of you have is geniune .(Enough said) Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is and dont be surprise if there are not a long line of other women who was treated the same way. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better and dont feel bad about how the relationship ended and hate yourself for not finding out earlier .things are right before our eyes and most women are so blinded by love that they cant see what is happening to them . that they are being led on. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women who dont take you any place in public and who just want to spend time with you in bed doing the nasty and after it is finish he gives you this silly excuse and leaves. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up and let him know how you really feel. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are and that you cant do without him ... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues and take all the time you need before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun ,a dinner or a movie at times and even a drive out or a walk in the park...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.Right atleast you will have some very fond memories when it's all over. Make him miss you sometimes.never go running to him at all times let him come looking for you and ..when you go running to him at all times it always makes a man to think that you are always available to him and he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house and never get too close with the family because when the relationship comes to an end it gets real nasty and you will be out numbered.Remember family sticks together. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman get prepared and the men who can take it They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
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