FOR US LADIES - 5/1/07
If A Man Wants U

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If a man only wants sex , you will know the signs by
the things that he says to you and the excuses that he
always make not to be with you when the sex is all
over

If he has a wife, a baby momma or the other woman and
she is not working it the way he likes it then dont be
his suger baby because that is the only reason why he
is with you he doesn't want you, nothing can make him
stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow
your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship
that's not meant to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man
before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not
treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." and if he wants
the two of you to be friends along with the sex, heck
no again the sex must be good because he dont want to
lose it but you will not be his suger momma. and a
friend wouldn't mistreat a friend or lead a friend on
that whatthe two of you have is geniune .(Enough said)

Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he
probably is and dont be surprise if there are not a
long line of other women who was treated the same way.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying
when things are not better and dont feel bad about how
the relationship ended and hate yourself for not
finding out earlier .things are right before our eyes
and most women are so blinded by love that they cant
see what is happening to them . that they are being
led on.

The only person you can control in a relationship is
you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch
of different women who dont take you any place in
public and who just want to spend time with you in bed
doing the nasty and after it is finish he gives you
this silly excuse and leaves.

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why
would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from
his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If
something bothers you, speak up and let him know how
you really feel.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it
against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from
within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you
are and that you cant do without him ... even if he
has more education or in a better job. Do not make him
into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing
less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with
you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to
treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the
bending...compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues and take all the time you need before pursuing a new
relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun ,a dinner or a movie at times and even a drive out or a walk in the park...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.Right atleast you will have some very fond memories when it's all over.

Make him miss you sometimes.never go running to him at all times let him come looking for you and ..when you go running to him at all times it always makes a man to think that you are always available to him and he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house and never get too close with the family because when the relationship comes to an end it gets real nasty and you will be out numbered.Remember family sticks together.

Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you
everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman get prepared and the men who can take it

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.