Is He For Real? 
(No men were harmed in the writing of this blog) If you're like me you have probably been on atleast one date with half of the city. (Sigh) Ever feel like your life plays out in an episode of Sex & The City? Hi, i'm Carie! Well there's one good thing about this... atleast you know now exactly what you find desireable in a man.
Now, i'm no respector of indifference so I believe everyone deserves a fair chance. However, lets just face it; the odds of meeting a guy that fits your criteria is rather slim to none. I have realized over the years throughout my "single-dom", that this ideal man is but a very miniscule figment of our imagination.
These days you should consider yourself lucky if you can find an unemployed man that will atleast take the garbage out. Yup, its that bad... My single friends along with myself often congregate to discuss our utter disgust with men today. It seems that for the most part, married men are more on the market than single men are. Over the past two years I have ran into some men and 80% were married with spouse in home, 18% seperated (or so they say), and sadly just 2% were actually single; but of course hardly what i'd consider dateable.
THE 80%
Ok, for married people they are faced with more marital woes, than the realtionship issues by singletons; are what i'd imagine are for vast reasons.
These men in my opinion are the sweetest men you can ever meet. Most women will agree when I say that a married man has the ability to sweep you off of your feet faster than a single man will. Why? Is it that a sweetheart is the last dying hope for happiness? Is it that a new woman offers more excitement than the same old routine at home? Or is it that a man looks for a woman opposite from his wife and secretly wishes he hadn't married her and wished he married a woman like you? Possible, all of the above. However, reality is, he will never leave his wife for you because of attachemnts; not necessarily emotional but financially and in most cases because of children. But you know that! So why do you get upset at him when he doesn't? Yes, i'm talking to you! Its likely that he and his wife have seen more good and bad times that are more valuable to him than a roll in the hay with you. You are just there to spice up his otherwise dull life. There is nothing that keeps old couples together like history. So the next time you consider dating a married man, think about this... You may enjoy the shopping trips, the late night escapades and the extra attention you receive but you will never compare to what he has at home. You are like Morphine to an injury! As soon as the pain wears off you will be discarded.
THE 18%
You know what's funny? This guy still isn't single! Ha ha! Ladies, if you have met a guy that claims that he is legally seperated from his wife for more than a year without any sort of move towards divorce; by all means just keep moving! This man has probably no intention to marry again and is seemingly comfortable with his circumstance. Yes you may develop a meaningful relationship but be very weary of his views on marriage. If he makes comments implying that marriage isn't on his agenda or that he is not rushing his divorce procedure then just RUN! You are making a big mistake unless you are with the same motives in mind. Lol, you can't even become a common law wife because he is still married! NEXT!----
And Finally...
The Dreadful 2%
No, it's not fair to pass judgement on people by first glance. But as humans and specifically women, we are at times overly curious. This is why when someone is single for some period of time, it rises red flags. "Uh Oh! Wonder what's wrong with him." Well there may be a very good reason (as always) why he's single. Maybe he's an old fashioned kind of guy who doesn't rush anything. Or maybe you and he were destined to be and he waited on you to ride off into the sunset....ahhhhh. Big fat Yeah Right! Please sister snap out of it! Odds are he's so screwed up that NO ONE wants him. Don't be the investigator, just run!
But don't despair! Maybe half of that two percent is actually dateable! Keep the faith, he's out there.
In my experience, I know that there is no single one person for another. Why would God do such a horrible thing? There are billions of people on the planet and its impossible to meet even 5% of those people in your lifetime. So, really now.. But, I do believe in finding someone you click with and making it work. The key is seeing what works for you and your tollerance level. It's just that simple!
Good luck and happy hunting!
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