Title: Why Are Women Intimidated??
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Blog Entry: I was just thinking.... Why are women intimidated by their boyfriend's friendship with another woman? The most outstanding issue I'd say is jealousy. Women find it difficult to accept the PLATONIC relationships between their boyfriends and other women, which is quite understandable; I don't know if I'd be too happy about the closeness of my fella with another woman either, but why are we willing to lose probably the greatest love we've ever known because we are unwilling to accept our man's friendship? All it boils down to is insecurities I say!!! I find it hard to believe that the main focus in a relationship should be the "best friend" and not working on building a strong relationship with the guy. What women don't seem to realize is that the history and foundation already set between them is not going to be easily shaken. The goal as "girlfriend" then, should be trying to get where she (the friend) already is. The "girlfriend" has to do some work and setup a foundation and build history with the fella. She can't expect to just come in and take precedent. NOT GONNA HAPPEN!!! The "friend" was there when he needed a shoulder to cry on, when his grandparents died, when he needed advice, when he was drunk and needed a place to crash and when he just needed to laugh. We expect our guys to forget what they have with someone else to accommodate our little insecurities. Moreover, what women don't realize is that they will enventually take Mary or Shaneka's place. The guy has to find out if ya trustworthy and of sound mind before he goes all in!! Another thing is the best friend's focus is never on the "girlfriend" but hers is always on the "friend". That get's annoying to the guy because he is continuously trying referee the situation and accommodate both parties, yet all he seems to get is a backlash of pent up aggression toward the "friend" who is quite comfortable acutually. The "girlfriend" sits around thinking of ways to manipulate and sabotage his relationship and the "best friend" is saying "who does he go home to?" The "friend" has no problem sitting in the back seat or taking back seat to the "girlfriend" and she won't give the "girlfriend" the evil eye while she does it either!! Most times the "friend's" motives are pure, but the "girlfriend" is so blind sighted by her envious rage she can't see what potential gold she has sitting right in front of her! It eventually causes a break-up because the guy gets fed up and goes back to what is relaxed and drama free. He goes back to the familiar. So the "girlfriend" sat around and thought of ways to lose the other woman but lost the guy! How ironic!! Personally, if a guy says "I have a best friend……her name's so and so and our friendship is not negotiable" I'm gonna say well hey let me meet the wench because if I say this guy is special to me, I want to know everything about him and if that includes meeting his best friend which so happens to be a woman, hey stuff happens!!! I'm mean don't get me wrong, I'm not gonna be happy about it, but I have to ask myself.......... is he worth it? Additionally, if I realize this guy treats me well, he's intelligent, got his own stuff and he's gonna be an asset to my life, he respects me and worships the ground I walk on shoots……that's enough to love that girl. Good men are hard to find!!! So tell me do you agree, should the "girlfriend" accept the relationship or walk away? Is it ok to hate the friend? Should you voice your hatred even if you do hate him / her?
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